Friday, July 16, 2010

When You Absolutely Must Apologize To Your Boyfriend - The 6 Easiest Ways

Once you realize you're wrong, and you know you owe it, how do you go about apologizing to your boyfriend? Apologies imply fault, and for many people, the two hardest things to do are to admit they were wrong and say they're sorry. "Forgive and forget" is advice more easily given than followed. Here are some ways you can help your boyfriend get over his hurt and resentment:

How to Apologize to Your Boyfriend Step 1

The first essential component of an apology is timing. It's not a good time for an apology, for instance, if he's preoccupied or upset. Ensure that he's in a good mood and able to pay attention to you and your apology. If he's not, set up such a circumstance - arrange a situation where you're alone together and able to talk quietly. If you want your boyfriend to accept your apology to accept it and forgive you, you must pay careful attention to the timing.

How to Apologize to Your Boyfriend Step 2

Your apology must be sincere, and must really express the remorse you feel for what happened. An apology should always be face-to-face, and look him directly in the eye. It cannot be too strongly emphasized that you must be absolutely sincere - if you are not, he'll see it in your eyes and body language.

How to Apologize to Your Boyfriend Step 3

An apology needs to be kept short and sweet - don't turn it into a dissertation. It's sufficient to give a very brief explanation of what you did wrong and "I'm sorry." If you want to persuade your boyfriend of your sincerity, don't make your apology long and involved.

How to Apologize to Your Boyfriend Step 4

Give him something or do something for him - something nice, from the heart. Your gift should show some thought and be oriented to him - give him something he'll really appreciate, not something you think he needs or something you want to try to get him interested in. Think about a home-made apology card, for example, or prepare his favorite meal. Alternately, take him to an event he wants to go to, or to his favorite restaurant.

How to Apologize to Your Boyfriend Step 5

When apologizing, be ready for a negative reaction. A positive response to an apology isn't guaranteed. There may still be anger in your boyfriend's heart, even if he tells you he's accepted your apology. So be prepared for any negative response he might give. Just because his response is negative when you apologize doesn't mean he'll stay that way. Give it time - chances are he'll calm down, especially if your behavior reinforces your sincerity.

How to Apologize to Your Boyfriend Step 6

If there are consequences for your mistake, it's important that you accept them. Accepting the consequences means talking responsibility. If you made a mistake, you need to accept responsibility. Perhaps you damaged something of his and now it has to be repaired or replaced. Go ahead and take care of it joyfully. It's one of the ways you can demonstrate your sincerity, especially if it causes a bit of financial stress.Keep in mind that just because you apologized to your boyfriend, it doesn’t mean he will forgive you, just be prepared for whatever may happen (even if you already made amends).

An apology, of course, doesn't automatically generate forgiveness. Even if you've taken some action to demonstrate the depth of your feeling, your boyfriend may still not forgive you, so you need to be prepared for anything.

It's difficult to apologize to your boyfriend. You must especially remember that sincerity is a critical component of any apology. Your apology must include an admission of fault or guilt, and that's never comfortable. There's nothing to be gained by re-opening old wounds - once you've made your apology, consider the episode closed and move on! How you overcome these difficult times - together - will strengthen your relationship.

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