Dealing with a Breakup

Dealing with a breakup is no easy task to do. Most people will feel incredibly crushed when they first find out about the breakup. I know, I've been through it all. There are several things I've done in a hysterical state that I wish I hadn't. This will not help make your situation better. Don't do things that will just push your ex away. Instead, trying doing a few of these things to improve your situation.

Don't Try to Get Revenge -- You might feel hurt, but hurting your ex back won't make things better. Don't try to humiliate him by posting bad things on his wall in Facebook, don't tell lies about him to his friends, and don't try to hook up with someone else to make him feel jealous. You don't really want to do that. You will only regret these actions later. Take some time off and leave your ex wondering about what happened to you. This will let you to see things much more clearly. It's a good idea to start asking yourself what is motivating you to do anything before you take action.

Learn What Went Wrong -- When things don't work out, you should learn what you can from it. Could it be that there is some part of yourself that you held back? Maybe you could have been more honest about your feelings or more emotionally open? You want to make sure that you are not tormented by the same problems in your next relationship whether or not you and your ex get back together.

Put Your Attention Elsewhere -- Try not to dwell on your breakup too much right after you hear about it. It will be challenging to turn your attention away from that brutal feeling of being rejected. Really though, you shouldn't be spending so much time thinking about your breakup. So, get out and spend some valuable time with friends having a good time. Or go out and try something new and take up a hobby that fascinates you. This will help you grow as a person while keeping you from spiraling into depression.

Learning to cope with a breakup is probably one of the most challenging experiences you will have to deal with in your life. Keep your head up and steer clear of doing petty tricks that you will wish you hadn't done down the road. Keep yourself surrounded by close friends that will help you feel better and do things that you like doing. Take this breakup as an opportunity to turn over a new leaf and start a better life. This is the best frame of mind you can have about a breakup.

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