Breaking Up Advice

Splitting up can be very devastating and painful part of our lives. Here is some advice I've picked up over the years on how to help you move on, get closure about the breakup or even giving your relationship a second shot.

For whatever reasons you guys broke up, it doesn't matter, because in the end, the reason you guys broke up is because one of you needs space from the situation. The time apart can be used to explore anything. You can do anything from experiencing life as a single person, dating other people, to thinking about your life and where it's going. Use the time apart to do anything you want. If you're the one that got dumped, then your partner just needed to step back and contemplate the situation and see what their options are.

I advise you to give your partner the space that they need. You will push them away if you keep hassling them about taking you back . If you keep calling or texting them, they will feel as if you are not giving them the space they are asking for. You will still have to give them the space they want even if you just want to stay in contact to maintain a friendship or as a way to eventually get back together. Understanding this important rule gives you a chance to properly give them the space they need .

I usually tell my friends that are going through this to take about two weeks to a month to stop all contact with thier ex. Giving them the space they need is the most difficult part. Oh, I know how tempting it is to call, text or email your ex, it can be agonizing to fight back those urges.

Giving him space will work in your favor because your ex will have time to miss you. I promise that you will be on his mind while you are giving him the time alone he needs. He will be thinking of all the good times you guys have shared together. You've heard that saying, "absence makes the heart grow fonder."

You can also gain from the "no contact" rule too. Use the time to take a deep breath and heal yourself from hurt and pain that comes with a fresh break up. Time apart can also give you a chance to decide whether or not this relationship is worth salvaging. Having some time alone will give you a chance to try new things and meet new people as well. You might find yourself an improved person when your not in that relationship.

Who knows, maybe he will reach out to you at this time. This might feel like a miracle if you feel like you've done all you can to get him back before.

So, take my advice and don't contact your ex for a few weeks. These might be trying times for you but I promise you that giving him space will improve the situation.

If you enjoyed this article, also check out Breakup Advice, Advice for the Heartbroken, and How to Live with a Break Up.